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SWEET
TANTRA
Experiencing
this state of communion with another person, this state of diffused
physical pleasure is a fundamental experience to widen your sexual
horizons. And it is an excellent cure for impotence, premature ejaculation,
inability to ejaculate, and male and female frigidity. To experience
a "peak" orgasm it is necessary to relax, breathe, and move
very slowly, rather, not moving at all, staying there, wait 31 minutes.
You look, smell, and caress each other. If you are really in love,
you can see that you won't be bored. How can I make you understand
in a concrete way this type of reasoning that seems at first sight
so crazy? I would like to subject you to a visual experiment, an
optic trick that very simply shows that in front of the same image
we can have two completely different reactions. Now look at the
drawing here below.
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You
will see two profiles, or a candle. If there is someone who
sees the two things at the same time, get yourself quickly admitted
to a hospital because you're a very serious case. Let's say
that generally you see only one of the two objects at a time.
This little visual game, this optical illusion can make you
understand what I'm talking about. In other words, the difference
does not always depend on what we're doing. |
More often it depends on how we feel the experience we have made,
on how we make our perceptions work. Our perceptions are wonderful
things. Here below we will see a more amusing trick.
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Our
brain is able to create images. Here you see a triangle that
doesn't exist. It is our brain that creates this triangle and
if it can do this, it can also create a triple-orgasm, a quadruple-orgasm,
the wildest sensations. It's essential to understand how the
mechanism works. It's essential to understand what we are looking
for. If it's a mental pleasure or a real involvement of the
whole body. But this total involvement comes from a true mental
relaxation. |
If the rational brain doesn't relax, it consumes so much energy
that not enough remains to listen to sensations of pleasure. Those
31 minutes of inactivity serve precisely to create a state in which
the rational brain (which is hyperactive), not having anything to
do, gets bored and not tolerating boredom, it switches off.
Boring the rational brain is the simplest way to switching it off.
Our rational brain is an overzealous eager-beaver. It never stays
still, not even when you're simply looking. It even corrects what
we see. If you look at the three little men in the drawing here
to the side, you will see that the one that looks bigger to you
is the one at the end, because this optical effect gives an illusion
of perspective, and therefore the little man at the top seems bigger
because it appears as if it were at the end of a street.
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reality, all three little men are the same. It is your brain
that says: "All three seem equal to me, but that one there
is farther away because it is at the end of the street, therefore
it is bigger". So it makes you see it bigger because your
brain is afraid that you are wrong. It is convinced that you
are a bit of a dick-head. Understanding that our brain is capable
of changing the size of what we are perceiving is amazing. |
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As is also amazing understanding that just as he fools us a little,
so we can fool him a little, to make him rest in the moments when
we don't need his activity. To put him to rest, it is enough to
make him do something stupid, like "not doing anything".
He falls quickly asleep and you can abandon yourself to pleasure.
Sexual pleasure reaches the highest peaks when the rational brain
stops looking and measuring it. We feel the most pleasure when our
mental (rational) brakes let go and we lose control of ourselves.
But most people never in their lives experience this level of absolute
pleasure. Sweet Tantra is the way to get there, training the rational
mind to let go. When you have learned it through Tantric sex, then
you will be able to do it naturally without having to resort to
the 31-minute exercise each time. It will come natural to you to
devote at least an hour at sex and cultivate a gentle attitude,
disassociated and relaxed. And if you don't think while you're having
sex, it is less likely that you will suffer from impotence and missed
or premature ejaculation.
They are disorders that simply disappear, without doing anything,
in the moment when the rational mind stops controlling and judging
everything that happens. If you let yourself go to passively listening,
absorbed in the flow of sensations, of entering really and completely
in the moment that you are living, things will truly go in another
way.
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I
would like to suggest to you another absurd experiment. If you
cross the fingers of one hand as when you hope for good luck
and gently and slowly touch the tip of your nose with both fingers
at the same time, it will seem to you to have 2 nose tips. It's
a fantastic sensation. |
At the beginning probably, you won't feel anything, it's only a
confused perception, then slowly your brain will create this sensation:
2 nose tips! You have to wait a few seconds, waiting for your brain
to tune in to this new perception. Try it... it's wonderful. Attention,
it works only with the nose!
This exercise is elucidating because the first time you do it, it
will take a few seconds to feel two noses, but then, for the rest
of your life, it will be enough to touch yourself for a second to
perceive the 2 noses right away. Once a sensation is memorized,
it will take an instant to feel it once again. It's the same with
Tantric sex. Once you have learned it (identified it), you will
get to it naturally and without effort, simply because your instinctive
brain knows that it's there, knows that it is pleasure, and looks
for it. For a super orgasm it is indispensable...
We are fully able to experience ten, a hundred, a thousand times
the same caress. It isn't true that if I do it hanging from a chandelier
I will feel more pleasure. I can get a lot of pleasure even if I
do a very simple thing. A caress done with the tip of the finger
can be much more blissful than ten nymphs furiously assaulting my
body with monstrous-erotic thrusts. To increase sexual pleasure
and to experience the peak orgasm of Tantric sex, you don't need
to do anything spectacular or difficult. It's sufficient to do 3
things well.
The
first, and the most important, is to breathe. You will think: "What
has breathing to do with sex? Nothing!" Instead it has a lot
to do with it. For example, look at those scenes of wild sex in
films: when the two lovers look at themselves in the eyes, they
are already breathing convulsively: ah, ah, ah....Then when they
kiss, they look like two orangutans gone berserk. It is the breathing
of the great Latin lover, showing that he can't resist anymore...
so he breathes that way, syncopated, gasping.
This way of breathing is exactly the antithesis of sexual pleasure
because only a small part of the lungs are involved. Breathing in
such a way, not enough oxygen gets to the blood and the level of
carbon dioxide saved in the lungs drops, as a result the pleasure
receptors function poorly. Orgasmic capacity decreases tragically.
To reach the utmost pleasure, you have to do just the opposite of
what we see in films: slow and relaxed breathing. By breathing correctly
I can increase my orgasm incredibly. The fact is that all of us
don't know how to breathe. People don't completely fill up their
lungs or completely empty them. Explaining how to breathe correctly
is a big problem, but fortunately the universe loves us (and that's
wonderful).
We don't need to learn how to breathe because we already know how
to do it: when we yawn we breathe perfectly. Therefore, I invite
you to do this exercise: now try to yawn and listen to what happens
during a yawn. That's it. Once you yawn, you feel better. Then there
is that sensation of pleasure in the final phase of the yawn, there's
this fantastic mandibular orgasm, a wonderful pleasure, that even
if someone puts a finger inside your mouth and titillates your velum
palatinum, you're not able to close your mouth and bite the finger
off. Because you're feeling a lot of pleasure. You've been taught
to put a hand over mouth because it's bad manners to show people
your immense pleasure. Obviously, you have to do something pleasurable
on the sly because people don't want to see others taking pleasure
yawning. Moreover, the yawn is infectious and this pleasure would
take hold of the whole country. The big yawn! Go ahead and yawn,
I'm not offended, so I'll continue with my discussion.
The yawn is perfect. It makes your whole stomach, all the muscles
and the diaphragm move, and it renews your oxygen supply. In the
yawn there is also a moment of non-breathing during which you nevertheless
continue to move the diaphragm that is below the lungs. This way,
you give your lungs a shake, you help them get rid of catarrh, and
it also optimizes the level of carbon dioxide. To yawn is magical!
If you want to increase your orgasmic pleasure tenfold now... not
after six years spent in a Tibetan monastery at twenty below zero,
they wake you up at four o'clock in the morning struck at the knees
with an iron bar, and not even after six months of a rebirthing
course, crying, shrieking and collective desperation, eating only
canaries drowned in Bach's flowers ... no, I'm saying increasing
your sexual pleasure starting tonight...
It's
sufficient that you make love yawning... uninterruptedly. Remember,
however, to tell your partner that it deals with an oriental technique
or else he/she could say: What's going on? We haven't made love
for ages! And what's more, when we make love, you yawn from beginning
to end... Fuck-you...!
I give you written guarantee you that if you make love yawning,
after a few minutes the yawn becomes always more pleasurable because
you get the hang of it and you feel your whole body become sweet
and gummy, you feel fantastic shivers. You have an orgasm that lasts
45 minutes! Not seven seconds! No more premature ejaculation, impotence,
nothing. You yawn, yawn.... like crazy! I truly give you my word!
And obviously I recommend it all the more if you want to explore
the peaks of Tantric pleasure.
Breathing is essential and at the start the yawn is the best method.
Yawning for a long time allows your body to remember how to breathe
correctly. Returning to Tantric sex, the second important thing
is to be relaxed. Someone will think: "But I am very relaxed.
I don't need to relax any further". It's not true and the proof
is this: if you look at a hundred horses walking, you will notice
that they all walk the same way. Look at a hundred people walking
and their gait is all different.
All these ways of walking are caused by contractions in a part of
the body and deflation in another. How does it happen? How is it
possible that your muscles are contracted without you being aware
of it? What does it mean? That we don't have complete control of
our musculature? Yes, precisely.
If you don't believe it, try this experiment: place your hand against
an obstacle and begin to push.
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Push
with all your strength for sixty seconds. At the end of the
minute, you let go and move your arm away from the obstacle,
and you notice that it rises by itself. It stays raised for
a minute or two depending on the effort you made in pushing.
(Attention, however. I'm sorry to say it, but even this game
works with only with the arm!) |
What happens? When you begin to push, the rational brain gives command
to the rational musculature. The latter begins to push, but it's
lazy. After a few seconds, it gets tired and says: "Enough!
I've had it!" And so the unconscious brain begins to push,
which commands a musculature that is unconscious. When you stop
pushing, the command reaches the rational brain once again, reaches
the rational musculature that isn't doing anything. No one commands
the unconscious musculature and she continues to work... then after
a while, she becomes aware and says: "What the heck am I doing?"
And stops. But it takes her some time.
This
exercise won't work for everyone. It deals with a small percentage
of people who are extremely disciplined and are able to do something
that is almost impossible and that's to continue to push for sixty
seconds with the rational musculature. The rational brain continues
to say: "Push, push, push...." It doesn't get distracted,
not even for a second. In this case, when the rational brain says
stop, the arm stops immediately. Because it's the rational musculature
that's working. However, this is a phenomenon that we in fact all
know.
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For
example, when we ride an bicycle, we don't continue to think:
"Right foot push, left foot push, right foot push, left
foot push...."otherwise riding a bicycle would be torture. |
After you are pedalling for a while, the legs move by themselves.
And you can think of other things, chat, sing. This is an amazing
phenomenon. We have two muscle bands that work in parallel and allow
us to do exceptional actions. But if we don't know this mechanism,
we risk that the unconscious musculature remain contracted. It is
essential to know that our muscles can be contracted even if we're
not aware of it because there are a lot consequences of physiological
nature: headache, back pain, joint pain, cystitis, gastritis, menstrual
pain, etc.
Often we suffer from these disorders only because there is a strong
contraction of the irrational muscles and we haven't forgotten how
to relax them. Generally, involuntary contractions are a source
of a lot of health problems, but the problem becomes really disastrous
when making love. Men always fear that they're not up to the mark.
What do you do when you are afraid? You squeeze in your ass! Squeeze
in your ass in today, squeeze in your ass in tomorrow, the L-spot
gets strangled, loses sensitivity, and isn't able to produce orgasm.
So that 50% of men over the age of fifty have prostrate problems.
Because by sheer force of being contracted, it explodes. Conversely,
50% of women don't use their vaginal muscles, and after menopause,
this musculature collapses and we have uterine prolapse... urine
incontinence... disgusting names.
Now the wonderful thing is that it's very simple for both men and
women to confront and solve this problem of excessive contraction
and excessive relaxation. It is sufficient to move the pubococcygeal
muscle. Learning to contract and relax this muscle is very simple
(and this shows once again that the universe loves us). We can all
do it. We all use the pubococcygeal muscle when, peeing, we block
the urine flow... Exactly as you're doing now. Continue to practice
as you read the good it will do you. Contract this muscle for 8
seconds and then listen to your relaxation for 24 seconds. It is
exactly what we do when we thoroughly stretch.
The
other essential characteristic of Tantric sex is slowness. This
is something that drives today's sexual culture crazy. I remember
seeing a pornographic film when I was young and then tried to make
love in the same speed as in the film... I burned my penis all over!
I walked around the whole week all bandaged up with anti-burn gauze,
my penis looked like an Indian chief with a poncho. I have nothing
against pornography, but it should be mandatory to write overhead
on the film: "Attention! To film these scenes, the actors applied
a type of self-extinguishing fireproof paint on their genitals to
avoid setting the same areas on fire".
All they had to do was say it! Caution the young so that there won't
be any injuries. Slowness is the most erogenous thing there is.
The more slowly you make love the more you enter an absolutely extraordinary
state of awareness.
Perceptions change. You experience sensations that you have never
experienced before. We never stop in order to listen to a slow movement.
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here I would like to suggest a very simple little experiment:
while you are sitting, place your hand on your knee and try
to close it as slowly as possible, at the speed of one or two
centimetres at most a minute... very slowly. |
You should feel a sort of clank clank that makes you understand
how little our joints are used to slow movement. Continue for a
few seconds. If you move your fingers slowly enough, you will feel
a strange sensation in your hand, like a tingling sensation, an
increase in weight and warmth.
That's it, this is the sign that your hand has relaxed completely.
You have relaxed the irrational musculature and this strange tingling
sensation and warmth is caused by the great flow of blood that arrives
to the muscles that have finally been relaxed. This is a very ancient
Chinese cure and is useful in all those cases in which there is
an annoying muscular contraction.
Listening to this slow movement, you begin to feel a lot more. After
a minute, your perception has increased. Think about making love
at this speed for 31 minutes... In the end, you will even hear someone
speak in Japanese. You hear it distinctly. You don't understand
what he is saying because it is Japanese, but...
The
idea of Tantric sex is that in these 31 minutes you are able to
raise the volume of your perceptions, whereas usually we make love
and live with the volume completely lowered. We don't listen. We
don't listen while we make love and we don't listen to life. Someone
will think that it isn't true and that I'm talking nonsense, but
I can show you that I am telling you the truth. It may have happened
to you to be looking for your house keys: you put your hands in
your pocket and they're not there. You look all over the house and
you don't find them. You put your hands back in your pocket again...
nothing. So you throw your house upside down and you don't find
them. You put your hands back in your pocket... and they're there.
Where had they been? Or we suppose that we live in a universe in
which the house keys go to a pub once in a while. They drink coffee
and then they return home after 20 minutes... or we must admit that
our way of listening is completely flawed that we put our hands
in our pockets and we don't feel the keys.
That is, our intelligence works off and on. And it happens that
you are looking for a big book that is right in front of you and
you don't see it. You look for your glasses that are on top of your
nose, or the hat that you are wearing, the shoes at your feet, etc.
This is the drama of non-listening. What has been the fundamental
idea of all the great mystics in all continents and in all epochs?
What have they kept repeating for milleniums? That if you are able
to tune in to listening, you are naturally able to listen to mystic
ecstasy, nirvana, illumination, satori.
They are all words that have the same meaning: the capacity to be
able to listen without keeping your fingers in your ears and slices
of cheese over your eyes. Even this will seem to you to be an absurd
discussion, but all of us have experienced this state of full and
total illumination: when we have fallen in love.
The stupor of this feeling creates a shock and our armours, our
barriers, our perceptive filters melt away and suddenly you experience
the world like you have never experienced it before. You have the
famous lover's syndrome. Are you able to recall how you felt when
you were madly in love? You go about looking at everything as if
it were the first time that you saw it: "The sky! It's blue!
But really blue! A special blue! I've never seen it this blue. What
colour was it before? Look at the tree. All those ruffled leaves,
thrown in upheaval. So green! But oh so green! Where the sun shines,
they are a lighter green, and where it doesn't shine, they are a
darker green! Look how small the little ant is!
Did you polish yourself this morning before leaving the house? You
are carrying a huge crumb! How could you carry such a weight? What
an effort you must be making! Tomorrow I will bring you a loaf of
bread so that you won't have to leave your house for two years.
Poor little creature! And all your friends feel sorry for you. Poor
guy, he's in love... It's best to leave him alone. He's out of his
mind. And here our barbarism comes to the surface. The disdain for
love is a cultural malady that we have carried with us for milleniums.
The ancient Athenians and Romans judged it shameful to fall in love.
It was a sign of weakness. To say "you have fallen in love"
was an insult. For this reason, there doesn't exist a single love
story with a happy ending in the whole of ancient literature. Whoever
loves is a vicious pervert and destiny will punish him. When you
are madly in love, you are afraid of going about because you think
that your smile is so stamped on your face that whoever looks at
you, understands immediately and says:
"Look what a dick-head he is! He's in love!" If we were
a civilization worthy of the name, they should teach us that when
someone is in love, you should sit down and observe how he behaves
because he has solved all his problems. Nothing is how it was before
anymore. When you are in love, you hear completely. The problem
is that you attribute your ecstatic state to the other persona,
you don't understand that it deals with an inner wealth. And after
three weeks or three months, when this effect wears off, you have
also labelled the person that you love. You don't see her anymore
and so she no longer arouses emotions in you. She no longer has
that magic effect on you.
And so what do you do? You get pissed off with her: "You no
longer arouse the same emotions in me that you once did, so it means
that you don't love me anymore. But if instead you were to understand
what the mechanism is, you could try to return to it. Tantric sex
allows you to put yourself in a state of listening in such a way
as to make you return to that emotion. I remember that when I fell
madly in love with my wife, we were in Sciacca, a wonderful town
in Sicily, a stupendous region. But one day, we went to a nearby
town that was truly squalid. There was a shabby-looking bar, but
I was dying of hunger. The famous lover's hunger. I enter this bar
and there was a display case with only one pizza... pizza, Oh God,
it was something out of a horror film, but I was very hungry and
I asked the bar owner for it.
The lady, as in a book by Stefano Benni, shed a tear because by
now that pizza was part of the family, they've passed it on from
generation to generation. It was called Assunta... the pizza...
The lady gives me this pizza. I look at it up close and think: It's
not possible, I've never seen anything like it, this can't be mozzarella!
But I was hungry..., I fold this thing, I put it in my mouth, I
take a bite... A paradisiacal taste!!! That is, it was truly disgusting,
but my perceptions were completely drugged by love. Even if I was
only breathing, I thought the air was better: what did they put
in the air today? Additives? It's all in the head. If it works in
a different way, it changes the whole perception of the world. And
it almost seems that this planet is a place worth living in.
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