HOW
IT'S DONE
TALKING
Ah...
the sound of your words in the moonlight!
Humans
are talking creature. To talk to each other is fundamental. I'm
not able to make love with a girl if I'm not able to talk to her
and I believe this is true for many others. To say sweet things
to each other, even while making love is enjoyable.
I don't talk much during sex because I'm very much taken by what's
going on, but some friends of mine love talking about what they're
doing during sex, guessing what she is desiring or announcing what
they are going to do. I think that it could be fun, if you don't
exaggerate however, because I believe that sex also needs the complicity
of silence.
However, for many people words can be useful to dispel anxieties.
I know of some girls who go wild in bed only if you tell them a
story. Obviously, it has to be a good story, not just any story.
Instead I don't really understand the game of insulting each other
that proliferates in films and in pornographic magazines. I once
met a girl who asked me to insult her.
But I wasn't able to. I'm not capable of having negative thoughts
while I'm making love. Yet, I don't find anything wrong with it
if one wants it and both like it. Why not? Once you have expressed
this desire for obscene language, try however to dedicate yourself
totally to the exultation of tactile sensations. To listen to them.
Lovemaking is a form of prayer.
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